#ChurchHurt: It was a trending hashtag last week and it’s been a trending topic for years, so much so that I believe some have become numb to the reality of its pain. The church, especially for African Americans, has been a safe haven, but the church, unfortunately, is the place where we sometimes experience betrayal,… Continue reading Overcoming Church Hurt
Author: saythatgirl!
Fatherless Daughter Advocate | Minister | Wounded Healer
Helping fatherless daughters redefine who they are beyond their fatherlessness, reclaim their value and worth, and rewrite a new narrative for their lives.
How to Cope with Father’s Day
In just a few hours Father’s Day will end and many women, men, boys, and girls will breathe a sigh of relief. Oh, I remember the days when I dreaded the approach of the third Sunday in June because I was always fatherless on Father’s Day. That was the one Sunday I avoided church and stayed… Continue reading How to Cope with Father’s Day
Honor Thy Father
How to Honor Your Dad When He Doesn't Honor You Many of us can recite the Ten Commandments with ease, recalling them from our Sunday School class, family Bible study time or vacation Bible school. Obeying them, however, may be unequally effortless. Well, at least the fifth commandment: “Honor thy father and thy mother: that… Continue reading Honor Thy Father
Lessons From ‘Black Panther’
"Black Panther" has been all the rage for the past two weeks and I finally got to see what all the excitement is about. Four days later I’m still saying and singing Wakanda forever. Thanks to social media, prior to heading to the theater I was alerted to powerful messages or themes in the blockbuster movie. Being… Continue reading Lessons From ‘Black Panther’
You Are Not the Problem
Stop Blaming Yourself When I decided on the subject for this post, I could hear Maury Povich saying, “You are not the father.” You probably remember the popular paternity test segments of Maury where mothers tried to prove whether or not men they were involved with were the father of their child. In many cases, Maury… Continue reading You Are Not the Problem
Little Victories with Big Impact
Shifting Your Focus From the Bad to the Good Abraham Lincoln said, “Those who look for the bad in people will surely find it.” And while it is often easier to see the bad in people, my goal is to encourage each of us in every relationship – but especially with our fathers – to… Continue reading Little Victories with Big Impact
Bigger Than Me
My recent post, Secret Child, garnered a great deal of attention this week. By sharing it on Facebook, I knew I would reach a portion my target audience, but mostly those who are not in that population. Some, I know, were fascinated with the storyline; others have taken a genuine interest in the subject. I… Continue reading Bigger Than Me
She Needs a Daddy
In high school, I always looked forward to study hall because that meant time away from instructional learning to spend with friends. No, not much studying happened during study hall because most times we played cards, engaged in conversations with schoolmates or got a pass to go to the library. A group of us… Continue reading She Needs a Daddy
Secret Child
I, Too, Am An Essie Mae Washington-Williams When news broke in December 2003 that Essie Mae Washington-Williams finally revealed that she was the biracial daughter of the late Senator Strom Thurmond, I was inspired to share my story. I remember the wire-bound spiral steno pad I used to pen the first few hundred words for… Continue reading Secret Child
Speaking Out About Fatherlessness
For at least three years I've been procrastinating about starting this blog and here I am near the end of 2017 and it's finally happening. This is the space I've been dreaming of sharing some of my most intimate stories with you - other women and girls who share the circumstance of fatherlessness. I've been… Continue reading Speaking Out About Fatherlessness
